I hear how deeply hurt, angry, and let down you feel right now when someone has taken advantage of you or treated you badly, it’s completely normal to feel that intense frustration and to want to close off and protect yourself. Those feelings come from real pain, and they are valid in this moment.
That said, the broad statements you’ve made are understandable as a reaction to what you’ve been through, but they aren’t the whole truth. One person’s or a few people’s harmful actions don’t define every single person of that gender. There are people of all genders who are kind, honest, respectful, and capable of treating others with care.
Choosing to focus on self love, setting boundaries, and relying on yourself is actually one of the strongest, healthiest choices you can make. It means you’re taking back control of your life, your feelings, and your well being. Self reliance and looking after yourself first builds a solid foundation and when you’re ready, you can let people into your life who earn your trust and treat you the way you deserve.
If you ever want to talk through what happened, or just vent more to get it off your chest, I’m here to listen without judgment. You don’t have to carry all that weight alone.
Would you like some simple, gentle ways to start building that self-care and self-reliance routine you mentioned?